The loss of a loved one is unavoidable and bound to happen at some stage in our lives. When a loved one is no longer with us, it is imminent to remember and honor them by attending the funeral and cremation services. However, many questions come to our mind, when it comes to etiquette for a funeral, such as what to wear, what to say, or how to participate. Though there is no wrong or right way to attend a funeral, here are some general funeral etiquette’s to be kept in mind.
How to dress at a Funeral?
While attending any of the various funeral ceremonies, it is expected not to wear bright colors. Show respect for the family by wearing light and subdued colors so that you don’t call attention to yourself. Depending on religious beliefs, one may have to dress accordingly. For eg, in Hindu funeral and cremation services, white color is worn by mourners. On the other hand, in a Christian funeral, a dark solid color is a safe choice.
How to offer condolences?
It is advised to pay condolences before or after the funeral service. Kind words and a warm hug can go a long way in showing your support and love. Try and listen to what the mourning members have to say. Some words that you can use to show empathy are:
- This must be hard for you.
- I’m sorry for your loss.
- Our family is keeping your family in our thoughts and prayers.
- Let us know if you need anything.
Is it okay to use a smartphone at a funeral?
Using smartphones at funeral and cremation services is considered to be insensitive at such a time. If you absolutely need to use it to make a call or text, you can go outside or someplace alone. It is also advised to keep your phone silent at the time of a funeral.
- How to participate at the funeral?
If you are attending the burial or cremation ceremony, you will get a chance to say a proper goodbye to the lost one. Pay your regards and allow others to do so. If you want you can put some flowers near the deceased as a tribute.
If you are not able to attend the funeral service, you should pay a visit to the grief-stricken family within the mourning period. You can even simply give them a call or let them know that you are thinking of them.