A transgender father has criticized the medical staff of a hospital who kept on calling him a “mother”.
Bennett Kaspar-Williams realized that he was a transgender nearly a decade ago and decided to start his transition.
In the year 2017, he met Malik, his future husband, and got married in 2019.
The couple soon decided that they wanted children and looked into all the options that there were.
Bennett decided that he was comfortable with conceiving and carrying a child and last year in March, he realized that he was pregnant.
In October of 2020, Bennett gave birth to Hudson, his son, via caesarean section.
During his stay there, he was constantly misgendered by the nurses that were working there.
Talking about his experience, he said:
The only thing that made me dysphoric about my pregnancy was the misgendering that happened to me when I was getting medical care for my pregnancy. The business of pregnancy – and yes, I say business, because the entire institution of pregnancy care in America is centered around selling this concept of ‘motherhood’ – is so intertwined with gender that it was hard to escape being misgendered. Even with a full beard, a flat chest, and a ‘male’ gender marker on all my identification, people could not help but default to calling me “mom”, “mother”, or “ma’am”.
Bennet says he was not happy with how he was treated in the hospital.
He also talked about how it was like carrying a child throughout the coronavirus pandemic.
Bennet described the experience as the toughest and bravest thing that he has ever done.